I am sure that I mentioned it before but I when I found out about my new pal herpes I decided I should probably do the right thing and talk to my ex-girlfriend. As mentioned in the post I never showed symptoms when I was with her so most likely I didn't give it to her. It is also likely that he didn't give it to me given her apparent lack of symptoms during our relationship. Nonetheless I had planned to talk to her about it just in case. The problem I that I haven't. Perhaps I am being weak or perhaps I do not see the point in putting her through the grief.
This remains unresolved.
Thursday, 21 February 2008
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Actually, there is no point in discussing any of it with your ex. It's not really going to accomplish anything but to possibly stir up more drama for you. You don't want that.
Besides, what's to say that your ex didn't contract it from one of her previous partners before you OR after you. What if it turns out that she has it but it's not from you?
It's not going to change the fact that you have herpes.
Forget about the ex. You don't owe any of your exes any comments or explanations. It's none of their business.
Deep down I believe you already know that and THAT is why you chose not to mention it to her.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with that!
Look, it is better that you talk to your ex. Remember, herpes is still an STD and the whole point is to try and prevent the spread of it. Herpes can cause cancer in women and can be very painful. This is not something you just toss by the waist side. I know you might be disappointed and hurt in the fact that you contracted HVS, however, you have to realize that talking to you ex would be the responsible thing to do and help prevent future spread to some else. That knuckle head that said you do not have to say anything to your ex/s is irresponsible and the kind of person that should not be trusted with your life. If you did not have symptoms before, then most likely you did get it from her. She may not know that she has this STD. You need to man up an tell her.
Anonymous,
Thank you for you views. I would like first to clarify one thing - herpes does not cause cancer in women or men for that matter. In fact the risk is from certain types of papilloma virus (source: http://www.herpes.org.uk/art_kinghorn.html)
I agree with you that it is important to prevent the spread to others. I would also add that the possibility that there is no evidence to suggest that I got it from my ex any more than any of my previous sexual partners - I think the point that 'herpes help' makes is that nothing is clarified by finding out if she also has it - if she has it it may be that neither of us passed it to the other. It is also true that many people who have herpes do not know they have - does that mean everyone should be tested just in case?
Thank you for taking the time to read my blog and leave a comment.
One of the biggest things about talking about genital herpes, is what her/his reaction will be. After I was diagnosed w/ the decease, it took me years of research and alternative natural treatment to feel comfortable. Speaking to your partner would be the best thing to do. Before you do, do a little research. A great diet. Eat green foods. Stay away from carbonated drinks. If you eat bagel a lot, leave them alone. The high yeast content will increase the outbreak. Leave the sweetners alone. If you happen to feel an outbreak along you genitals, dap clorox bleach on the area you feel the outbreak. This will kill the blisters caring the virus within a few hours with little or any scare damage to your private area.
See what a little research does for you! This may ease your partner and help he/she feel more comfortable.
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